According to a study published in 2018, 50% of couples say they’re satisfied with their sex lives. So what about that other half? Well, another interesting data point from the same study found that a lack of sex was the second biggest source of frustration in relationships.
When you and your partner have been together for a while, it can be tough to keep the spark going. But with a little openness and a whole lot of NSFW browsing, you can reignite your love of sex while learning more about your partner.
Want to know how to spice things up in the bedroom? Keep reading for some sultry tips!
Take a Quiz
As is the case with most things, the toughest part of spicing up your sex life is figuring out how to get started. One quick and easy way to learn about yourself and your partner is to take a kink quiz.
There are quite a few to choose from, but Sexual Alpha’s quiz seems to be the most comprehensive, especially for couples looking to explore BDSM.
If you’re looking for something a bit faster and less BDSM-focused, there’s also this quiz, which comes from a psychotherapist and analyzes general sexual compatibility.
In either case, make sure both partners take the quiz so you can discuss the results together.
Prepare for Some Awkward Conversations
For most couples, talking about sex is still taboo. But before you can come up with fun bedroom ideas, you’ll have to work on opening up to your partner. Yes, this means having some downright awkward conversations.
Before you start discussing, make sure all parties agree that partners aren’t to be judged for their kinks. Relationships are built on trust, after all.
Think of this as yet another trust-building exercise! Except at the end of that exercise, you’ll have some great sex.
Do Your Research
Now that you and your partner know more about each other’s sexual interests, it’s time to get down to business and make your fantasies a reality.
Whatever your flavor, a little research can go a long way. This is especially important if you’re exploring things for the first time like anal or impact play, both of which take preparation and boundary setting.
Plus, you’ll want to make sure anything that goes in your body (or your partner’s, for that matter) is safe and tested. This is especially true of products like butt plugs, which come in a variety of shapes and sizes. For help choosing your first starter kit, see here for a few quick tips.
How to Spice Things Up in the Bedroom: A Beginner’s Guide to Better Sex
When it comes to figuring out how to spice things up in the bedroom, it’s all about trust and compassion. Keep it fun, freaky, and most of all, judgment-free.
And don’t forget, a little research goes a long way, so don’t be afraid to open up a private tab and do some searching. For more tips on keeping things interesting in the bedroom, be sure to check out the rest of our adult section!